You know that feeling when someone says “thank you” and saying “you are welcome” does not seem like the right response because what is happening is not some polite courtesy. What is happening is a powerful moment of recognition of gifts given and received --Very Big Gifts.
Well I just had one of those moments in Abilene Tx. Ending a three-day workshop with 29 mental health provider learning Thought Field Therapy we exchanged those polite words but it was not an adequate express of how great it was for me. I received so much more than I gave. I appreciated how well I was used in doing my favorite thing- Teaching Thought Field Therapy.
The feeling of gratefulness expressed to me was sweet but not as sweet as what they gave me. Their stories, willing engagement, courage to explore, and commitment to carry on the power of TFT are gifts that I will long value. I loved seeing participants testing out TFT on themselves and one another. The enthusiasm in preparing to introduce it to their clients was wonderful to see.
All too often, I feel I am pushing a bolder up a hill by myself as I present the evidence for healing with informational and energy psychology taught in Thought Field Therapy. Well, I feel less alone today.
My very personal Thank You to The Trauma Care Institute of the Trauma Support Services of North Texas. It has been a pleasure working with the leadership, staff, and community and hope to see you all in the future.
Since starting the Trauma Care Institute last year, we have been so proud to offer trauma training to some of Texas' most talented and dedicated mental health professionals. In addition, it has been a great honor to partner with trainers from around the country who believe in what we at TCI are trying to achieve. One such source of pride was being able to offer 3 full days of Thought Field Therapy (TFT) training for free in Abilene, TX, taught by Dr. Robert Bray from the San Diego Thought Field Therapy Center. During the training, Dr. Bray shared with me that he was truly moved by the open-mindedness and engagement of the attendees. After the training, he emailed me the sweetest letter of thanks and I wanted to share it! For those of you who were not able to join us but are still interested in learning more about TFT and how it can be used to help your clients, please visit www.rlbray.com. - Kaley
Last Wednesday we celebrated the International Day of Yoga so we want to give a shout out to all the Trauma-Focused Yogis out there!
More than 35 million people in the United States are now practicing yoga, an 80% increase over 2012. Something must be very good about yoga – and we know for sure that it’s good for those who have experienced trauma. A major challenge in recovering from trauma is being able to achieve a state of relaxation and safe surrender. Trauma makes you feel as if you are stuck in a state of panic. In yoga, you learn that sensations peak and then fall, as the parasympathetic parts of the brain take control and the sympathetic parts (fight or flee) back into the distance,
Someday, when our dream comes true, our primary TSSNT therapy offices will have adjacent yoga and Pilates studios for the treatment of both body and mind. On that day you will hear a huge collective sigh and “Namaste” from the bottom of our hearts.
From time to time, friends suggest that we begin charging our clients for therapy. Frequently, someone offers the opinion that charging our clients would make them take it more seriously. Sometimes, we also hear, "Things that are free usually aren't of much value." These are all well-intended and thoughtful comments.
TSSNT always needs more money. Since the beginning, however, all of us affiliated with TSSNT have shared the vision of a more "trauma-informed" community. That's why we value high quality trauma therapy for those without the ability to pay. It's also the reason we offer high quality trauma therapy training for therapists throughout the State of Texas. Whatever it takes for as long as it takes for that to happen will make our dream of a trauma-informed community come true.
We are not naïve, however. We know there are the haves and the have-nots, and the gap between them continues to widen. Isn't it great to know that at TSSNT those differences do not matter? No one affiliates with us through a "pay" gate or a "no-pay gate." We sit together in therapy sessions. We greet one another in our offices' "Welcoming Areas." We participate together in TSSNT's Trauma Care Institute's free trainings, regardless of our incomes. We work together as volunteers.
Of course, some make donations to pay the bills for all of us. Granting organizations recognize the value of what we are doing and share their wealth with us. We are endlessly grateful for all of them.
If you tend to live on the "haves" end of the socio-economic level, you might consider regular donations to help us continue to fulfill our mission. Regardless of where you are on the socio-economic scale, maybe you can think of other ways we can work together to ensure a trauma-informed community. What an amazing reason to participate, however you can, in this very extraordinary organization.
In the meantime, come on in and make yourself at home. Whether you come to give or to receive, there is no charge!
Whatever it takes, for as long as it takes......
Lifeguard Your Child
May historically signals drowning season
Who is watching your children in the pool? More importantly, who is not watching them drown?
The month of May has been designated as National Water Safety Month because the warmer weather marks the beginning of summer and drowning season across the United States. Already this year, one child died at Cook Children's from a fatal drowning and 10 more kids have been treated for non-fatal drownings.
Drowning prevention around the pool begins with adult supervision, but there are other steps parents can take at home to help protect their children from drowning.
Use these safety techniques and layers of protection whenever children are around the pool:
“If you are somewhere where children are in the pool, insist that an adult be on watch,” said Dana Walraven, community health outreach manager for Cook Children’s, said. “It should be done by a sober adult and that should be his or her only focus during their time watching the kids.”
To read the full story go to http://www.checkupnewsroom.com/lifeguard-your-child/ or more information about this topic, visit cookchildrens.org
From UTA Intern to TSSNT Staff
About the Author
Dawn Delaney is a Dallas, TX native. Born in September. This makes her a VIRGO (Vibrant, Intelligent, Reliable, Giving and Observant). She works as a Trainer for Airport Operations at Dallas/Fort Worth International Airport. She is the mother of six, and grandmother of two. She is a graduate of the University of North Texas with a Bachelors of Fine Arts degree. She is a lover of “The Arts”.
As a native of Texas, she received her BA in Psychology with a minor in Social Work. Lisa knew early on she wanted to dedicate her career to advocating for children and youth and worked with an international foster care and adoption agency for over 18 years, serving in various positions. From there, she transitioned to a position as a National Trainer for a large nonprofit safety organization overseeing their Victim Services Training Program for National Staff, Field Staff, Volunteer Advocates and Community Partners. Lisa is dedicated to helping others develop a positive self-image, engage in their community and take pride in their accomplishments. She continues to mentor at-risk youth from diverse backgrounds and is also a Certified Developmental Coach. Lisa is actively involved in her community and currently serves as an Officer on the Board of Directors with Susan G. Komen Greater Fort Worth and as the Board President with the Dream Weaver Foundation.
Lisa is excited and honored about being selected to serve as TSSNT’s Executive Director/CEO and is eager to learn more about our various programs and community initiatives as well as meeting all the many people who help make TSSNT’s work so meaningful.
Why would someone derive joy from scaring children – or adults, for that matter?
A search for “fear of clowns” on the Internet reveals numerous references to "coulrophobia," a name given to fear of clowns, although it is not a term recognized in the DSM-5, the document currently used to diagnose mental illnesses. Diagnosable or not, most of us know of someone who is ferociously afraid of clowns – any clowns.
The current “Creepy Clown” phenomena, particularly as we approach Halloween, is of concern to most of us in the mental health field.
Fear of things we should fear is healthy. We should fear being caught if we are doing something wrong. We should fear getting cavities if we don’t brush our teeth. We should fear someone approaching who has harmed us before. A healthy fear response motivates is to positive action.
However, inducing fear just because one can is not a good thing. Let’s consider the biology of the fear response.
Victims of assaults and accidents sit frozen in emergency rooms. Traumatized children become mute, simply screaming. Inside their bodies, a frightened person’s pulse races and his breathing becomes rapid, sometimes to the point of panting. The stomach becomes upset, possibly inducing vomiting. Some people pass out. Adults, with their brains fully developed by their mid-twenties, can handle fear better than children, whose brains are still developing, but even the adult brain can only take so much.
The challenging thing about fear is that once experienced deeply, it is easily re-triggered. The slightest resemblance to something that was previously frightening can trigger the same response. Maybe that’s why clowns are so frightening to some people. They look far from ordinary. Children need warm, loving, smiling faces from safe people. Enter a clown – or even Santa Claus. Of course, children cry!
Enter a clown or Santa Claus to a healthy adult, and most of them can tolerate it well. However, people who have previously experienced traumatic events, for example the 20% of us who suffer from PTSD, have the exaggerated response described above. For them, it takes a long time to calm down, sometimes hours. This is totally unnecessary fear with no redeeming purpose.
Why the “creepy clown” phenomena now? One might hedge a guess that it has to do with the generalized fear and anxiety that many Americans are feeling. What do unhealthy people do who are afraid? They try to have more power and control over other people. It’s like the domestic violence perpetrator who uses fear to keep his victim in line. Only when she is afraid, can he feel that he has control over her.
So what can we do, given the potential of a “Creepy Clown” Halloween?
- Don’t dress up like a creepy clown yourself or allow your child to dress like one.
- Rather than walking your child through the neighborhood, seek out emotionally safe events such as church and community carnivals or the many faith communities that offer “Trunk or Treat” with car trunks open and filled with safe and healthy goodies for the children.
- Organize your own Halloween party and keep it emotionally safe.
There are enough very real scary things going on in our communities and our world. Let’s not add to it with absolutely unnecessary fear.
To read the full article visit http://www.psychotherapynetworker.org/magazine/current.
When it comes to suicidal clients and their families, trauma therapists believe quality post-vention is the ultimate pre-vention because family members of those who die by suicide are at high risk for ending their own lives the same way. Trauma Support Services of North Texas (TSSNT) takes its role in suicide prevention very seriously by offering free individual and group therapy for family members of suicide victims. A suicide trauma group in Fort Worth begins on October 6 and one in Dallas begins on October 11. For more information or to schedule an Intake for the group, contact Erika Williams at 972-740-3636.
Below are 5 tips for suicide prevention that anyone can use should you find yourself in this situation with a loved one.
- Ask, using the word “suicide.” Say something like, “I am worried about you and wonder how much you’ve been thinking about suicide lately.”
- Listen exquisitely. “Tell me more about that.” (This is the hardest part of suicide prevention. A suicidal person is not interested in your advice. He or she does want you to listen until you ”get” their pain. Don’t try to talk them out of their pain, but look them in the eye, nod your head, letting them know that you are trying to understand.
- Develop a Safety Plan. When you hear a hint of reason to live, explore. Say something like, “It sounds like there is a part of you that doesn’t want to die today. When you have felt suicidal before, what or who helped then? Or “What do we need to do to keep you safe just for today?”
- Make it happen. Call the person who helped before and ask them to come. If medication is needed to stabilize, take the person to a hospital emergency department or call the primary care physician.
- Don’t leave the suicidal person alone. Stay with them until a reliable support person comes. This person must agree to stay with the suicidal person until the next day when a therapy or physician appointment can be arranged.